Once we become adults, at some point we have to learn to take responsibilities for our own actions. That’s apart of maturity & growth. Just because you were raised in a household where alcohol and/or drug abuse were the norm or maybe you never had people around you to show you how to be faithful or a real man/woman. Some behaviors are learned but, that’s no excuse.
Once you grow up & mature, you gain wisdom (Prov. 3:7, 14:16, 19:20; Eph. 5:15-17; James 3:17). The bad behavior you were so used to seeing in your childhood doesn’t have to control your adulthood. That painful past doesn’t have to determine & dictate your future. A so called “generational curse” only continues through generations until someone makes up in their mind that they’re gonna be different & break that chain.
Don’t get comfortable in your past. Don’t stay there. MOVE FORWARD! Sometimes we can get so comfortable & content because we’ve become accustom to the familiar. (Romans 12:2 “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”) We have to change our thought process (mind-set) in order to change self & once we change us, we can change our surroundings and our situation. When we’re going through hard times, we don’t have to make excuses for them or complain about them but, use them as guidelines for future tests. In other words, learn from the things you’ve encountered in life so you gain enough information from that particular situation so you won’t have to repeat it. And if it be so that a similar test presents itself to you, you’ll had already gain the knowledge/wisdom necessary to be able to pass that test (James 1:2-4; Prov. 19:20) .
God’s plan for us is that we prosper in life (Jeremiah 29:11). He allows us to go through difficult situations to mature us; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually (John 16:33) . Don’t stay stuck in your pass, in your pain but grow through it! Through all of my trials/tribulations I had to learn that what God wanted me to do most was pray/talk to him…that much more. It was in doing so that I gained strength to get through. I gained knowledge on how to handle the next trial. Sometimes we wanna tell this person & that person so much of what we’re going through with & yet remain weak; spiritually & emotionally. Why? Because we’re talking too much to the wrong person. Whom you’re confiding in may be telling all the things you wanna hear instead of what you NEED to hear. It’s good to vent to a person we trust to give us the truth but, the main one we need to be talking to about our issues is God. He’s the only one who has the power to bring us out. He says to cast ALL of our cares on HIM (1 Peter 5:7).
I encourage you to not just go through the pain but, GROW THROUGH THE PAIN. Allow yourself to, not only focus on the pass/pain to bask in it & have a pity-party but, allow yourself to focus on it enough to learn and see the patterns. You may not have had the best childhood but, you can CHOOSE to have a better future/adulthood. That’s the GROWTH part of the pain. You didn’t stay there (stagnate) but, you allowed yourself to move forward & ahead out of that situation. Don’t be ashamed of what WAS in your life because there’s also purpose behind that pain. A PROSPEROUS FUTURE!
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